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Making Promises to Your Kids
by Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC,
I was bringing my kids home from a long day of play one summer night not long ago. It was a
difficult ride home, and they were tired, hungry, and whiny. I wanted to get them home as fast as I
could.
As we neared our house, my son exclaimed, “You said you’d take us for ice cream!” I cringed when
I heard this, because I remembered that I’d promised that I’d take them for ice cream. I began
to give excuses concerning why we needed to go home.
They would have none of it.
I turned the car around, and we went to get ice cream.
We got home past their bed time, and they were tired. But there was something that felt good
about this ice cream trip. I kept my word to my kids. And my word is something that I always want
them to be able to count on.
Your kids will have an incredible memory for the promises you make to them. In fact, you can assume
that any promise you’ve ever made to your kids has been remembered.
It’s important to know why this is so. When kids are younger, they have very powerful emotions that
dominate their lives. Can you remember how excited you were as a young child when you went to a ball
game for the first time or went on a trip?
Kids live in their emotions, and when they hear something promised to them, they get very excited.
They can picture the promise happening and keep it with them in a way that’s much more powerful than
we’re able to. For this reason, they won’t forget what you promise them. Ever! So don’t even think
about making a promise that you might not be able to keep.
It doesn’t take too much for kids to begin to lose trust in you. A few broken promises can have a big
impact on a child. Very simply, one of your jobs as a parent is to keep your promises. Treat them
as sacred, and do what’s necessary to keep them.
Some day your kids may grow up and have their own kids.
Wouldn’t it be nice to see that they’ve learned the importance of keeping their promises with
them?
Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches men to be better
fathers and husbands. He is the author of “25 Secrets
of Emotionally Intelligent Fathers”
http://www.markbrandenburg.com/father.htm
Sign up for his FREE bi-weekly newsletter, “Dads, Don’t
Fix Your Kids,” at http://www.markbrandenburg.com.
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